I always thought the phrase “words can never hurt me,” was one of the stupidest ever uttered. You WILL be hurt by words (fat, lazy, blonde, skinny). You WILL be offended. The actions of others WILL adversely affect you. How you chose to act, however, is your own choice. There is a universal truth that says: You can’t move forward if you are blaming someone else. This doesn’t mean that they aren’t at fault – it just means that your personal progression is on your own shoulders, not theirs. Their success does not diminish your chances of success (generally). Taking offense may be natural, but letting it roll off your back can become just as natural.
If you are hard of hearing, it’s like being a half breed. You aren’t ‘deaf’ enough to be Deaf and you aren’t hearing enough to be Hearing. There are lots of miscommunications on both sides: One the Deaf side because you are “hearing in your head,” and on the hearing side because you don’t hear them clearly. It’s easy to take offense, but it should also be easy to understand that there are cultural perceptions on each side that easily lead to ‘offense.’ Being in between should also help you understand that it’s not helpful to be offended.
Some people are trying to offend you, it’s true. Nowhere is this more evident than on the internet where anonymity cloaks them. But to stay offended doesn’t really hurt them and only harms you. I think we have a century of clear examples that blame and taking offense does not move you forward in the macro – it can only be magnified in the micro.
So let it roll off your back and move further up and further in.